The college guide to dating

However, over the past few months I’ve learned a lot about what kind of person I am and what I want out of others. I may still not know what I am doing, but I certainly know the mistakes I will not be repeating.Like any other nineteen-year-old, I was stubbornly convinced that I knew exactly who I was and what I wanted.

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Being in a relationship at this point in your life can be amazing.

It takes a lot of the loneliness away when you start feeling homesick. It isn’t for the ones who thought they’d found the love of their lives and now have to avoid doing their laundry at the same time as their orientation-week hookup, those who were set up by friends and now must endure their tiring jokes and jabs, or the students who have been pretending their phone died to escape certain phone calls.

It’s hard to figure out who you are when you don’t devote some time to learning how to be alone.

On the other hand, some prefer the temporary form of companionship. Most of the time, you won’t even realize people around you are doing it (pun intended)! My friends openly discuss sex, as described in my analysis of modern day hook-up culture: “Today’s youth is more accepting of and open about sexuality, choosing to look past the social stigmatization surrounding it.”When I’m in the back of the lecture hall, I often see waves of people on Tinder, passing their phones around to their friends, asking for their input on whether or not they should swipe left or swipe right. The app has even rolled out a "Tinder U” feature, allowing students to more easily meet people at their own school.

I was determined to be single when I entered college, to release myself from worrying about what was happening back home, so I waved goodbye to my high school boyfriend and greeted college with a blank slate.

Advice often imparted to college freshmen is to not be in a relationship at all.

We’re in a vulnerable stage in our lives, after all. We didn’t have time to be alone with our own thoughts, instead of staying busy with final exams and college applications; the summer before leaving for college was spent trying to connect with our family and create lasting memories with friends.

When we got to university, we faced packed dorm rooms filled with nothing but emotions.

At the end of the day, it all comes down to knowing what you want.

It takes time to figure out your needs, and in all honesty, it takes mistakes too.

When you see one another, it’s so much more sacred and important than when you see each other every day.

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