Now that you've got some fond (or not-so-fond) memories of dating bouncing around in your head, I'm going to throw another element into the mix that will make the dating game a little more advanced.The gal that you're interested in dating is a single mom. You're drawn to her because she is very mature and independent (and beautiful, no doubt)—you like that.Moshe Ratson is the Executive Director of spiral2grow Marriage & Family Therapy, a coaching and therapy clinic in New York City.
Here are eight rules that I think will lead you in the right direction.
Rule #1: Don't Treat Dating Like It's a Sprint—It's More Like a Half Marathon Guys, you have got to take it slow.
Marriage and family therapist Moshe Ratson says: "While there are no guidelines on how long you should wait to meet someone's children, you should take into account how serious you are about the relationship and how ready all of the parties are to make that step.
I heard this phrase “outcome independence” in reference to men and dating.
He received his MS in Marriage and Family Therapy from Iona College and has been working in therapy for over 10 years.
There are 16 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page.When she feels comfortable with you, and she trusts you enough, you'll get to meet her kids, but you've got to take it slow. I love kids as much as the next guy, but you'll need give it some time. These rules definitely aren't fool proof, and you should probably adapt to specific needs of both the woman and her children, but these should get you past the first few awkward stages of dating and get you into a more serious courting relationship. Well, they're more like guidelines (Pirates of the Caribbean, anyone? Give her a well-deserved break from her busy daily routine by surprising her with a day of pampering, joining her for a quiet night in, or helping her find some time to herself.Above all else, remember that her kids will command most of her attention—your relationship should be a bonus in her life, not the main feature.Rule #8: Just Be Patient Good things come to those who wait. Give her time to really feel able to share her feelings, her desires, her fears, her children, and herself with you.