It´s not easy these days to find and keep love, but it´s better to be single than with the wrong guy.
We get into unhappy and unfulfilling and generally "meh" relationships and we stay there, we justify it with: "You can't expect it to be perfect all the time" (though that's true) and that "People have off days" (also true) and that you have to "wait and see" whether or not it will work out (also true! The whole problem is that we piece together these independently valid ideas and use them as justifications. You like to spend your weekends on the couch reading, they want to be out drinking with friends in their spare time.
There's a difference between "compromise" and "understanding you're inherently different people whose lifestyles won't align".
My final dating tip is to beware the opposite of Mr Unavailable – Mr Overenthusiastic.
When you´re in the heady days of first falling in love with someone, it´s natural to think about them a lot, and want to spend all your time with them.
You're subconsciously trying to prove to yourself that it is, though.
Even if you aren't conscious about not wanting to show them to your nearest and dearest, you always find a way to skirt around the meet-up, or at least feel very anxious about it. It seems innocent at first, omitting the less flattering details to sparkle and charm your new love.
The media constantly feeds us the notion that romance and sex are the key components to a relationship—at least initially, we're led to believe, being attractive, being attracted to, being desired, and being pursued are a huge part of the dating game.
This makes some sense: Humans are instinctive creatures at our core, and although our mating practices are not as instinctively driven as those of other creatures, there's still there’s a lot that goes into choosing our mates that is simply, well, natural.
We all should know that there will be ups and downs, and ebbs and flows, within any relationship—made even more complex by our own personal ups and downs, and ebbs and flows.
But being unhappy in any relationship, even if you love the person you’re with or have been together for a long time is a huge red flag.
This could be for two reasons: you know the people closest to you will know it's not a right fit, or somewhere inside you you know it won't last, and you don't want to get everybody else involved too. You find yourself cutting a make-out session short, feeling more comfortable sleeping by yourself or intentionally keeping elements of your life secret, as though you're trying to show yourself life is just a little more comfortable when they're not in it. Days could go by without them reaching out to see how you're doing, and often do. But when it gets to a point that you have to hide or actively behave differently even just for the fear that they'll judge or dislike you...