Understatement of the year: dating has changed a lot since our 20s.Tinder, Bumble, Match and OKCupid haven’t entirely replaced being set up, working together, meeting at the bar or pure blind luck, but they certainly have made sweeping changes in redefining how we meet people and the opportunities we have to do so.Dattaro was diagnosed with bipolar II disorder right after her 23rd birthday.
Elspeth Rawlings, 23, a student in Frederick, Maryland, tends to only date people she already knows, which helps minimize anxiety.
At age 17, Rawlings was misdiagnosed with major depressive disorder.
“I would be hoping that I don’t start swinging into mania, because then I just get erratic and start spending tons of money that I really shouldn’t be spending,” says the Los Angeles resident.
Depressive periods make Zamo not want to go at all: “Nothing’s harder than trying to be interested in someone’s story when you’d rather just not be there.” Zamo, who is CEO of his own organic cosmetics company, says he showed signs of bipolar disorder when he was 18, but was only formally diagnosed at age 22.“Definitely do not tell the person on your first date,” Zamo says emphatically.
Leah Yegneswaran, 24, of Fredericksburg, Virginia, who was diagnosed with bipolar disorder at the age of 20, agrees.
“I worry that I’ll be triggered over the course of the date,” says the University of Mary Washington student.None of us intend to find ourselves dating again — mid-30s, this time while figuring out the balance between work and home, self and family — but this is the reality for many of us, because life happens and plans change.What does dating look like after divorce, in your 30s, and as a parent forging together some semblance of that balance?She was formally diagnosed with bipolar I in early 2015 and is now thriving with the right therapy and medication regimen.Low-key first dates — like watching movies together — are best for her, Rawlings says.So Yegneswaran creates a backup plan to accommodate the possibility of an anxiety attack.