Dating is a lot like a job interview - you dress up better than you usually do, answer questions you’ve heard 50 times before, try to stifle a yawn before it becomes obvious, and smile pleasantly. But if it doesn’t – if you don’t land the job, so to speak – then you simply go on another date. “Singles project ‘fantasy experiences’ of their first date, have over-optimistic interpretations of profiles and develop inappropriate emotional investment towards people they have only ever met online,” Gilbert tells SBS.
“I get burned out, I throw it all away and then I start again.” “I think it’s really easy to feel disappointed when people don’t fit the image you’ve given them.” Professional matchmaker Trudy Gilbert, who runs dating service Elite Introductions International, says that online dating can create intense connections within just a few days but when those expectations fail to materialise in real life, it can lead to burnout.
“Rejection is killer; it’s mentally exhausting,” says Page. Whereas couples would often meet through friends or family, or at bars, dances and other social gatherings, the internet has taken over to become the second preferred method to meet new people.
The addition of the internet to dating has brought both positives and negatives; on the upside, you can now scroll for dates while in your pyjamas and eating dinner at home and be exposed to potentially thousands of would-be suitors.
Another tip: ask your friends to set you up on dates with their single friends and consider using a matchmaker.
Every year Match releases a "Singles in America" survey that gives insight into the thoughts and feelings of single people across the country.
If you’ve ever dated, especially since the rise of dating apps, you know exactly what that's like.
Going on dates can be exhausting in the best of circumstances, so it makes sense that a good number of women are just..it.
Dating burnout is a real thing and it’s totally normal.
Here’s why you shouldn’t feel bad for being fed up: It’s a lot of work. Your coworkers are laughing/horrified about their Tinder dates.
Dating is a ton of work, no doubt about it, and it’s only natural that you would start getting pretty exhausted after a while. Then, boom, you show up at the bar and realize, oops, this guy is not the one for you. Just because you put in the time and effort to line up dates and meet new guys doesn’t mean that you’re going to like any of them. It wants you to chat with strangers and then take a deep breath and meet them for coffee or a drink. You’re wondering why you can’t meet someone awesome already and why you have to wait so long. You won’t go out with a guy who gives one-word answers. You won’t worry about silences between texting bouts. At the end of the day, you know you want to find someone awesome and you know that means dating.