It is almost as if some of their mail is sent automatically, like you are on their list and this is the next standard email that is sent out. When you indicate that you’ll be in their area and would like to get together, they can’t meet you. The pictures posted may or may not be the actual person.
This is a great test; ask to meet them soon after the introduction. Most people who earn a decent living wish to be wanted for who they are, not for their income. Ask the person to send you a picture of themselves via the mail. Notice the background in the pictures posted online. Does it show a big house, a new boat, or something else that yells wealth?
Gradually, you develop a long-distance relationship through emails, instant messaging, texting and phone calls.
Ask yourself how desperate for a relationship you are. In addition to the warning signs, here are some commonalities among scammers. They are not all over the Internet—you cannot find them on Facebook or any other sites. They must travel overseas shortly after meeting you.
Remember, they have a plethora of these, but not necessarily of these traits. They state they love you before meeting you in person.
When making contact with you, they start by complimenting you on your looks. This is a statement that everyone wishes to hear, but how do you know if it’s real?
Wouldn’t we rather be complimented on accomplishments or what our goals are? Charlatans tell you they love you before they have ever actually met you. Some people can sound great on the phone, but when you meet them there is nothing there; or, physically they just don’t meet your standards. The other part of the “I love you” scam is when they will say something like, “Something in me shifted, and I love you,” or, “I think I have found my soul mate.” Again, they have yet to meet you, and there hasn’t been enough time to know you well enough to truly love you in the way you wish to be loved. There is a reason they wish for you to contact them directly and not use e-mail via the dating site.
Once overseas, something horrible happens that leaves them broke or close to broke—their money got stolen from their hotel, the taxi cab driver stole it, the airlines forced them to check their luggage and their money was in their carry-on bag that was now checked. If they are asking someone that they barely know, it is either a scam or they have burnt their previous bridges.
Whatever the reason, a smart person or one who travels knows better than to let it occur. Either way, do you really want to get involved with this person? They are not on the alumni list of the college they said they attended, and so on.If there are continual excuses, then you know the person doesn’t really live where they say they do, and/or they are not truly interested in you. Yet, scammers will often indicate that they make more than 0,000 a year. Shortly after the introduction, the person asks about your financials as they wish to know what kind of person they are dealing with. They would rather write and they don’t usually answer the questions that you ask. Again, people who have real wealth do not advertise it.This way, when they get into a jam and request money, the unsuspecting person thinks their investment or loan will actually get reimbursed. In other words, they are really wishing to find out if you are worth their time to scam as you have financial resources to share. So, when a picture flagrantly indicates wealth, one needs to consider if that picture is even real. But, it is easy for a scam to be set up by a foreigner, even one who is not currently in the United States.The person you have fallen for will probably send you their photograph and give you a pet name.They may also ask you for naked photos of yourself and/or ask you to perform sexual acts in front of a webcam, particularly if you are female.They state that they love you in less than a month.