I guarantee if they find out you tricked them, they will assume everything you’ve said was a lie.
And this isn’t to say that if you’re overweight, don’t bother.
I’ve literally shown up on a date and only found out when I got there that the person was weeks away from giving birth.
The problem is that talking to people digitally really dehumanizes them.
We lose track that it’s a person on the other end just like us, and we say things we would never say in person, bad or not, and so we throw out the common unwritten rules of socializing.
While dating sites have plenty of attractive and very successful people, not everyone will look exactly like their pictures.
While I’m not saying you should be expecting a man in a wig to show up, you should kind of automatically assume that their pictures were old or edited, or at the least, something that shows their very best light.
So maybe you were a football or track star in high school and now you’re a few years removed and about twenty pounds heavier — leave those varsity pictures where they belong (in a shoebox! While meeting people and dating shouldn’t be all about vanity, you don’t want someone’s first thought upon meeting you to be, “Whoa, he looks nothing like his pictures.” Not only is it insanely distracting, but it’s starting the potential relationship with dishonesty rather than trust.
This also goes for exaggerating, or outright lying, when it comes to your job, education, or anything you find yourself tempted to say to get a meeting in person.
These people tend to match everyone just to feel better about themselves and try to get you to follow them on every social network they have a profile on.
They will also never meet you, because they are simply on there for the ego boost and not to actually meet people.
This is also why it’s better to meet people as soon as both of you are comfortable, so you can put a human to the picture.