Living in Vietnam opened my eyes to a major problem that I had. The places and context where I met girls was all wrong. Deep down, maybe they wanted to be with an intelligent, family-oriented, and worldly girl. Despite Vietnamese culture being a bit conservative, once you get to know a , she will open up to you.Women that you meet at a four nights out of the week are different from women you’d find at a Book Club on Friday night. Chances are, that kind of girl isn’t going to be hanging around ratchet nightclubs or shotgunning Four Lokos with hobos in the street. Vietnamese women are some of the most affectionate and loving women on the planet.
However, a “quiet sexual revolution” has been taking place, particularly in urban areas, since the turn of the century.
Many Vietnamese youth are abandoning the traditional ways and holding hands, kissing in public and even sleeping together prior to marriage.
Tradition places men and women in highly compartmentalized roles and emphasizes the importance of preserving your own moral integrity and the integrity of the other person.
In Vietnamese culture, a woman is discouraged from initiating romantic relationships with men because it makes her appear “easy.” Men typically initiate a relationship by repeatedly meeting with the woman and her family.
Living abroad allowed me time to reflect on what nightlife is like in the U. Before the night started, guys I knew mentioned how they were looking forward to talking to girls at the bar. While at the bar, these same guys sit back and spend the whole night talking to dudes. Demographics explain why you meet someone, and it just clicks. There aren’t continual mind games, like is that people tolerate a lack of clarity in their relationships.
I have a few friends back home in relationships like this.
But in recent years, many men and women are choosing to wait until their late 20s or mid-30s before getting married, if they marry at all.
Vietnamese culture is family-oriented: Festivals, holidays and even dating are seen as events in which the entire family can and should participate.
Like most dumb teenagers in my hometown, I subscribed to idolizing blondes. This phase went on for many years, until I moved to Vietnam. I had nothing in common with those blonde girls back home. Artists, businesswomen, entrepreneurs, you name it. You have to ask yourself this: “What do I value in a woman? I’m not saying that I’m looking for a Nobel Peace Prize winner, but just someone who has thoughts about life and the world.