‘Cause that’s who Complaining about Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, The League, and all of the other seemingly hundreds of dating apps is nothing new.
At which point, I promise I’ll stop writing articles about how much it sucks to date in San Francisco, and move onto discussing the troubles with divorce in California. (Ish.) While I hate to caveat, well, anything, I think it goes without saying that this critique on San Francisco dating is from the perspective of a heterosexual woman.
Again, I realize this is a clichéd complaint that we all make, and yet, do nothing about. Unless you factor in the fact that it requires so much money to live here, and the only way to get that money is to work your ass off…
So, here’s my challenge: next time you’re alone in a social setting, leave your phone in your pocket. which means: more focus on your career and not your sex/dating life.
Plus, why choose at all, when there are so many other people to date/screw/ghost?
The thing is, though, assuming you are dating because you eventually want to find a long-term partner, you can’t worry about if you’re missing out on someone better.
Like, why did you swipe “right” to me in the first place?
Oh right: because you wanted to know if some random chick on the Internet thought you were attractive. Listen, if I’m willing to admit I prefer napping over using an app where every single dude is looking for someone who’s “active and fit,” the least that those people (the ones that are only there to get their egos—or selves—stroked) can do is just be honest about it.
Dating is a numbers game, which is why those apps have merit.
But ultimately, if you meet someone you like, and they like you, you should probably go on more dates with that person..
In the meantime, I’ve placed all of the dating apps in the “Games” folder on my phone as a constant reminder about exactly what I’m getting myself into, if I choose to play.
Dating apps provide us a seemingly endless stream of potential mates, but like Barry Schwartz says in his TED Talk (that a million people linked me to when I was asking why they think dating in SF sucks so much), “With so many options to choose from, people find it very difficult to choose at all.” The problem with dating in the era of dating apps is that we’re too scared to make a choice—to commit to just one person—because what if we make the “wrong” choice?
Hinge is a popular choice across the board, but SFGate reported about a Hinge study that looked at San Franciscans' opening lines and tried to predict how likely someone might be to reply, depending on what someone kicked things off with.