In your effort to talk about yourself, avoid the temptation to lapse into attacking, accusing, criticizing or blaming your partner. Not about your partner or the kids or work or your friends. It is important to recognize your irrational feelings.Don’t dismiss them as being inappropriate, immature or meaningless.For example, if you feel hurt or disappointed discuss these feelings with your partner.
Make an effort to talk about the feelings that you would much rather skip over.
The feelings that you fear will cause you embarrassment or humiliation should you disclose them.
Communication involves the collaboration of two people as they share and examine all of their perceptions, feelings, ideas and thoughts to come to an accurate understanding of what is happening.
Everyone knows that communication is simply a matter of talking and listening.
This is not to say that you can’t be angry, frustrated or provoked.
You have a right to all of your thoughts and feelings.
Going into a conversation, there is only one reality that a person can be sure of: you can know what your own thoughts, feelings and perceptions are.
You can be sure of nothing else: not the other person’s thoughts, feelings or perceptions; not even the reality of what is going on between the two of you.
However, most of us mistakenly believe that the matter of communicating is simple.