It is important that there be a “pre” engagement period of time.
There is no set time frame for a pre-engagement period.
It serves as a basis for building the Christian dating relationship into as healthy a one as possible BEFORE marriage.
(I highly recommend the inventories developed by Dr. There are many counselors who can provide Christian singles with insights into the results found in these inventories.
What the expression really is saying is – “I am in love with the idea of being in love” AND “I really think you are the answer for ME”! This should be mutually agreed to and clearly understood by both Christian singles. It is very important that each person have their own accountability group of their own gender.
The progress of the Christian dating relationship should be shared so that their objectivity and accountability can be a valuable resource to the couple. Once a couple is satisfied that there is something to take to the next level, the couple should develop a plan in how they can best get to know each other in “real settings” not just in Christian dating situations.
The couple should be able to enjoy the blessings of God as well as family and friends as they move into a marriage that has been well planned and confirmed in a healthy process.
They can be assured that they have taken the steps to assure a long and satisfying marriage.This plan will include such things as spending time around family and close friends to enable each other to see how the other person builds and sustains all relationships. I do not suggest that the couple spend all their time together at this stage.It is a temptation to do so, but I suggest that it is actually unhealthy for the Christian dating relationship.Our emotions need to “grow” into this type of deep Christian dating relationship.Pushing the pace causes areas of each other’s character to not be observed.There is a progression that should take place in building a Christian dating relationship.