What you say to your children when you begin dating after your divorce will depend largely on their age. You'll be in bed when I get home."With school-age children (6-10) you can begin to provide more information.If you need a reminder about what to expect at each developmental stage have a look here When talking with young children (infants and toddlers) describe the person you are seeing as a friend. I'll be back soon."With preschoolers (ages 3-5) still describe the person you will be going out with as as friend. You will likely want to have a more in-depth conversation about dating.What if my children don't like the person I am dating? On one hand, it is important for parents to listen to concerns that their children raise about new partners.
Dating after divorce is as hard on kids as it is on parents.
If your children attach to every person you date, they are likely to be hurt and experience loss each time the relationship doesn't work.
Know yourself, know your children and ask yourself this key question: Is this a decision I think is best for my children, or am I reacting out of guilt or fear?
If your answer is the latter, you may want to address these powerful and often destructive emotions before making a final decision about dating after divorce.
But, we humans are instinctively drawn to partnering up.
So chances are very good that sooner or later you (along with nearly every other divorced parent) will be dipping your toe into the waters of dating after divorce.
There are many things to consider when making the choice to begin dating after your divorce.
Here are a few of the questions that parents ask: Regarding Your Children How do I explain my dating to my children?
It is also critical that you remain in the role of parent and not turn into your child's best friend where you each gush about your new girl or boyfriend. Every child will react in his or her own way to a parent's dating after the divorce.