The cruel waves that batter our bodies and minds define the seemingly ineffable laws of perception and attraction. Society, in case you hadn't noticed, often has (usually) internal shit-fits in reaction to couples that, by whatever yardstick, appear not to "match." Like Noah's ark we want everyone to pair off in symmetric decency and just move along. We're talking 40,000 leagues under the sea kind of sorrow.There was this tall 6 foot something guy who I would say had the textbook GQ cover model appearance going for him.
Before I could walk over and ask those girls what was going on, my student popped up right behind me and told me that the girls he was conversing with had somewhere else to be which was a clear signal to me that he got rejected.
The job always comes first and so I refocused my energy on him, cleaned up some mechanics, and moved him back into the next set before his anxiety could take over again.
I think a lot of "nice guys" feel this way, which is why many of them are unsuccessful with women …
Ultimately, anger at seeing an unattractive guy with an attractive girl is rooted in insecurity and fear …
I'm just bitter about people having what I couldn't hold onto." "It used to bother me when I saw a woman dating a seemingly less attractive man.
I think this was due to the socially constructed, misogynistic outlook on women I had been subjected to throughout my life.
“Never pick a fight with an ugly person, they’ve got nothing to lose.”-Robin Williams The other day I wrote a post about going for girls that you deem out of your league.
If you haven’t had a chance to take a look at it here’s the link as it’ll provide you some constructive tips on how to deal with this self-limiting belief:https:// was recently out at the bar the other night coaching a client for a two-day bootcamp he signed up for at the last minute.
After a few hours of going through the motions of digging into his background, belief systems, mindset, non-stop drilling, role play, and eventually the in-field portion of the class.
After helping him manage his approach anxiety and eventually getting him to approach the first few sets of people, one thing caught my eye at the other end of the bar.
As he was conversing again with another group of pretty girls, I decided to step back and go try and find those girls who threw a drink into the anti-Ryan Gosling’s face when all of a sudden I saw them chatting with this stocky and somewhat portly guy that had the appearance of a young Danny De Vito but was well groomed and dressed to the nines.