She hasn’t mastered the life skill of introspection, so she’s blinded by her bitterness.It doesn’t occur to her that she might be the problem even though every date and relationship seems to end the same way.(They are men, after all.) She won’t get a call from either of these guys and forever wonder why since she thinks she gave him what he wants.
Her life isn’t going the way she wants and she just can’t figure out why.
With men, she might complain that they just “don’t get her,” but the truth is that she’s giving them every reason to head for the hills with her off-handed comments and negativity.
She insists he give and give with little or no reciprocity; after all, he’s The Man and she’s his prize!
The 18 Year Old The 18-year-old dates – sometimes a lot – but she doesn’t have relationships because “she doesn’t want the men who want her, and the men she wants don’t want her.” She doesn’t know what will make her happy and has not yet learned how to communicate and relate to grownup men.
Like you, the men you’re dating have lived and learned. The only way you can empathize is to know their side of the story.
Just like how you’ve dated your share of challenging types of men like the disappearing/reappearing Pinger, the Couch Potato, and the older-and-balder-than-his-profile-guy…men meet and enter into relationships with less-than-impressive types of women.
She mistrusts men and often blames herself for the rejection she’s felt, believing that she just wasn’t good enough.
She says things like “I need him to say he wants a relationship, and then I’ll open up,” or “Once he gets to know me, he probably won’t like me.” The Scaredy Cat may put her guy through lots of tests before she feels confident that he’s truly interested.
Though a nice guy might try to break through and prove her wrong about men, he will give up out of exhaustion.