We are too easily ensnared with the wrong people when we cannot think clearly and Biblically.
Newly divorced Christians can sometimes be in so much emotional and soulish pain.
After my divorce (due to being abandoned), I actually did not date any women for almost 7 years.
Too many Christians start dating again while still married. If your divorce isn’t final yet, you aren’t single yet…. If we are to be consistent with Jesus and follow His Word, we must not date anyone who is still legally married.
We should respect Biblical marriage as God’s sacred institution and, as such, refuse to encroach on someone else’s marriage.
Buser says that men often jump into dating because they're lonely, vulnerable, and sad, and they're looking for someone to help them feel better.
"The relationships they start do not often work out in the long run," he says. I've never had a man take me up on that advice, but I do try to slow them down." He also advises men to date casually at first.
I reject the idea that singleness In other words, walk straight down the middle of the road, and avoid the two ditches on either side: one ditch is “legalism”. License is dangerous because you don’t exercise proper discretion in dating and fail to uphold personal and Biblical boundaries in dating. No matter what you think about dating, now or in the future, I hope this helped you with your healing today, in your current stage.
In this case, legalism would forbid and kill any desire or hope to remarry. Somewhere in the middle of the road, there is room for two lanes: those who choose to marry in a healthy fashion, and those who choose to remain single in a healthy fashion. Feel free to leave a thank you note for Pastor Curtis, or ask him a question, in the comments below.We can be desperate to avoid loneliness, we are looking for a quick fix to ease the pain of rejection and abandonment and/or unfaithfulness and/or oppression.We long to be loved again, and in dating too soon, we miss the greatest Love of all, the Lord our God. Divorced people need to start at home alone, spending time with Jesus Christ, the lover of their souls."Tell the woman you've just been through a tough divorce and that you're not ready for a committed relationship," he suggests."Acknowledge that it is not the right time for that." After a divorce, it's easy for guys to let themselves become isolated, especially if the ex gets custody of the kids. It can worsen feelings of depression, guilt, and loneliness, a potentially dangerous mix.They rush into new relationships -- and often into new marriages -- within the first year.