She questioned the messages she was sending her children and how it would affect them in the future. Today, fourteen years later, Tanisha carries her message to other abuse survivors by speaking out both locally and nationally on issues of abuse.
Additionally, she writes about her experience in order to help others who have been traumatized by violent and abusive relationships. Does your partner isolate you from your family and friends? Does your partner make you feel as if everything is your fault? Does your partner physically, verbally, sexually, emotionally, mentally and/or financially abuse you?
In fact, her abusive relationship began at the age of 15 when her high school sweetheart started physically tormenting and psychologically abusing her. Answering “ There are extreme consequences associated with unhealthy and abusive relationships. I've seen grown adults making the same mistakes over and over again.
Tanisha explained her fear of being in the abusive relationship, “He knew my every move, who I was with, where I was going, and who my friends were. According to the CDC, teens who are in abusive relationships are more susceptible to depression and anxiety, unhealthy risk-taking behaviors (e.g., drug and alcohol use), self-harm and suicidal ideation. You matter, your life matters, living a happy healthy life matters. We need to teach our children about abuse and abusive people early.
This pattern is commonly referred to as the CYCLE OF ABUSE. This phase holds a significant draw for the person who is experiencing the abuse as feelings of love are very powerful.
The abusive person acts in ways they know their partner will desire and appreciate. During this phase, the person experiencing the abuse is aware that tension within the relationship is increasing.
The abusive partner may give the other partner the “silent treatment”, refusing to answer them or answering only in grunts.
The abused individual tries to keep their abusive partner from becoming angry.
According to the data from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) approximately 10% of high school students have reported physical and sexual victimization from a dating partner in the past 12 months.
Girls and young women between the ages of 16 and 24 are the most susceptible to dating violence (about triple the national average).
Teens and young adults experience the same types of abuse as adults, including: If you or a loved one is in an abusive relationship, help is available.