Going slowly in making any decisions about a relationship are more likely to be better ones than moving quickly (unless it is clear that the relationship is not a good fit).Stage 3: “Enlightenment” and Becoming a Couple During this stage of a relationship, hormones are calming down and reality sets in. Trust is stronger and more intimacies may be shared at this stage as couples take away some of their “best face” and allow themselves to act more naturally and relaxed.
Often (not always) there is not enough “is this the right person for me” but rather more “what can I do to make this person like me?
” This stage may last for 3 or 4 months depending on the individuals and their maturity, experience and self-understanding.
Stage 1: Initial Meeting/Attraction Dating relationships have to start somewhere.
The initial meeting may take place over the internet, through friends, in a church or social group, at a party or bar or any one of a myriad of many different places.
Both halves of a couple will notice weaknesses and differences or flaws.
“Cute” habits might become irritating at this stage.
“ Women have a tendency to ask this question before men, even though both may be wondering about the answer to this question.
Pushing for an answer; however, may cause real problems in the relationship.
Some stages take longer than others to go through and some people take much longer at each stage.
Unfortunately, some people don’t fully experience and process each stage as an opportunity for personal growth or to make a healthy evaluation about the relationship or about themselves.
As intimacy develops between the two people, more self-disclosure emerges, both verbally and nonverbally as couples act in ways that are more like how they are in their daily life.