I once read that the reason blond women are perceived as most attractive by scores of men is that blonds have a slightly higher estrogen level than women with other hair colors.
Now, I don’t always agree with all of the conclusions that Rudder draws from his Ok Cupid data.
Once upon a time, he was trying to illustrate why free dating sites were “better” than paid dating sites, but it was clear that he was advocating for Ok Cupid.
Of course, when you flip the data around and look at what age men find women most physically appealing, you get an appalling answer.
Instead of the female curve, which suggests that 34-year-old women like 34-year-old men, men find 20 year-old women most physically appealing, no matter how old they were.20 year old men prefer 20 year old women. It’s shocking to see on paper, but not so surprising if you’ve ever talked to an actual man, read a men’s magazine or looked at porn intended for men.
But the same way I try to lay out best practices for dating and relationships while allowing for many exceptions to the rules, I think we’d all be well served to pay attention to how people really act when no one’s looking instead of taking their word for it. Men are attracted to women who are at their most fertile.
Is doesn’t matter if the man is 50, already had kids, and has virtually no chance of being with a 20 year old.Christian Rudder, president of Ok Cupid, is the guy who digs up the numbers from the millions of people using his free dating site.In his book, “Dataclysm,” he points out that who we want to be and who we really are can be two very different things.The older I get, the more attractive I find older women. Had a 30-year old roommate that dated a 19-year old.Right now women 30 seem far more desirable than women 18 or 19, because they tend to have more intelligence, mature and experienced I guess I'm in the minority here, but I'd find it super weird. I was pretty skeeved out by it but it's not my place to say anything.I mean it's his life and I'm not gonna tell him what to do, but I'd be asking myself what in the hell he has in common with an 18 year old. I personally don't see what a 30 year old could possibly have in common with someone who's 19, but whatever.